My mom never wanted me. My parents are the exact same.

My mom never wanted me ” Go where you're wanted, and you'll never want anything else again. My parents are the exact same. I’d rather die than have my mom teach me because I’ll feel like such a failure with my My mom has said to me in anger during a really bad argument that she'd wished that I wish that I never had you or your older brother when I was in my 20s and she was just angry and depressed. She didn't name me, my grandmother did. i told her but of course she won’t listen and just claims i have “an attitude” when im clearly just frustrated. Reply reply More replies. My parents have known for a long time that I never want kids and my mom has always encouraged me to do whatever makes me happy. My mother similarly went to the opposite extreme - practically never drinks and wanted to be included in every part of my I remember my mom asking me to do my own laundry, and then laughing at me for asking how. I always got stuck with this horrible bowl cut. I understand it. As time went on I never felt that drive to have kids, even after meeting my now husband. my mom just stomped upstairs, & started yelling. She was jealous of me like my dad was jealous of my brother. Before y’all tell me that my mom lied to me about my dad’s affair, he’s admitted to everything as I’ve told it when I pressed him for details some years back. I was never allowed to have a phone, and I wanted one so bad b/c I just wanted to keep in touch w/ my friends. When they weren't volunteering, they wanted to hide away. I was unexpected and my mom didn’t even know she was pregnant with me until halfway through her pregnancy, she had a really traumatic birth when she had me, I wouldn’t come out and Update: Hey guys! I just wanted to say thank you to those who helped for all the good advice- I have a lot more resources and ideas to go off of along with some wonderful support from new adults, neurodivergent people, parents and just helpful people in general. Sure, she’s making an emotional appeal to get what she i relate a lot to your post with my own grandmother , couldn’t even tell her i was upset without her immediately asking if i’m still taking my meds , it really does kill any bit of closeness you crave deep inside to have with them over the years , especially with CPTSD attached , that vulnerability and emotional connection becomes vital for our healing & in our personal relationships & My parents didn't want to spend time with me because I was a source of frustration, disappointment, and sadness. She wanted girls. Whenever I would cry, usually for valid causes, my mom would be angry at me and threaten to hit me if I don’t stop. What I did experience was their inability to parent. We're best friends, have an awesome bond, and i know she loves me. I was given My mother never gave me a healthy template for relationships. They don’t call my kids or even care what they are doing. I've never wanted kids in my entire life. com/play My parents never call me. Now my sister(19f) is back from college she doesn't wear a bra at home but my mom never says anything to her, i asked my sister if mom had ever told her not to do that and she said no. We don't know what the future holds, but we do want to get engaged by 26, married by 27. My mom never let my hair grow long because “it’s wispy fine hair” and i have a lot of cowlicks. But my aunt did. After having my own kids, I think about it a lot that my mom probably just didn't want me. Cycle ends with me My mom never wanted kids. She let me play with Barbies at the neighbor's. My mom had me too young and she never said that she didn't want kids, but that she wasn't ready. When we got home from school, she took off her girdle and stockings, threw them on her bedroom chair and donned what was back then called a housecoat. Yet, only a few years after they were married, I was born. The term abuse has been so commonly used that it's lost its sting, but abuse is not a She's never been like other parents, my friends called her the witch growing up which hurt me because she's my mom and I love her. She never wanted a child and has told me she doesn't like me and that I look just like my father, whom she hates. He also said he loved my mom and never wanted me to say he was all bad as her husband. She would've let me have long hair or paint my nails if it weren't for my dad or sexist school dress codes. Never wanted to come from an abusive, destructive and disfunctional My mom never managed to be able apologize to me, I think largely because she definitely didn’t want to lose her “power” but also her pride got in the way. I wish you a happy life with lots of hugs, whether they are from a partner, pets or kids or even a pillow to cuddle with. Anyway I went to college, uni got married had my girls etc and my mum is now with somebody else and lives just down the road from me - she loves my girls and does spend quality time with them on her own which I am so happy about but she still never wants to see me - we never go for coffee, shopping, she never just comes round for a brew, even when we have the Honestly, my mom's words made me want to kill myself every day. My mom was an alright parent but she spent most of her life being depressed that my dad left her over 40 years ago. I guess I’ll just spend the whole day by myself. My mom was enraged We have a very healthy, supportive & loving relationship and we're naturally quite expressive on what we'd like for our future. 4 For example, you might feel like your mom never calls you. Music is a powerful thing, I hope it brings you a little peace They showed me love and understanding in ways my mom could never give me. I wanna move out soon, but I haven't worked a day in my life, so I have no idea what that's like. My mom always wanted to know my feelings. Reply reply My father didn't get custody of us, my mother decided she didn't want me and my out of control sister anymore and one day just let us go live with him after years of not allowing contact Reply reply More replies. She’s always on about “you don’t want to look stupid”, “you represent me”, yadda yadda bullshit. Only at me and When my parents got divorced when I was 16/17 my mom made a power move and let me get a memorial tattoo for my uncle and told me not to tell my dad. Our bond was based on me pleasing her, no matter the impact it had on my self-esteem. I just couldn't stand it. she taught me the opposite- to do whatever anyone wanted of me, to shut down, to give in. I'm in college, and I think my parents did that mainly because if they pay all my dorm and tuition fees, I will be forced to listen to their opinions on the major they approve of and they career they want me to be in. Best thing I did was stand up for myself and make critiques of my own. However, my mom (who I live with) is entirely against this. I get a small cheque at Christmas and birthday and have had since I was 16. So when she says that she is referring to me, the eldest. When I was 7, the custody battle was on, and the court asked me which parent I wanted to live with. Mom: I thought that since I I can relate. My mom especially, for some reason, is obsessed with In a family with a healthy dynamic, you might crack jokes with your siblings and even recite your mother’s words before she can say them. ”” My husband was dumped at his grandparents house most weekends “It doesn’t sound like either of you had parents thatparented 🤷‍♀️ It’s not surprising to me that ppl who barely raised their own kids aren’t doting grandparents. These reasons might shine a light on why you're sensing this rift, helping you understand and navigate these complex emotions. ” If you were rejected as a child, you've never been able to trust your Since I stopped speaking to Mum she has made no effort to contact me – and my grandparents say she never mentions me. Why don't I have any friends? My brother's have friends, but we never have anyone over that has a daughter and wants to play with me. Reply reply My mom to a tee, hit me the other day with “oh you didn’t call your family doctor so I guess you’re going to have to find one on your own” (didn’t know I had to update I was initially down for being financial support for my mom and she was fine. 3 days later she passed. That I was the baby that forced him to waste 30 years of his adult life. I want to tell my dad to shut up but i don't want to sound rude like he's a good nuce kind dad who's always there for me but at the same time he's so anoying never shuts up snaps at me when he is anoyed but no i don't snap at him because I'm calm and amazing and I'm not gonana let him put me down. My daughter, who wants to study hairdressing, learned about hot combs talking to her black classmates at school. She wasn't alone as my brother was with her. It's ridiculous. I am 63 and my Mom is 83. Open in app. " Same here, my older sister loves being a mom, my parents love being grandparents, and I'm just happy there's no pressure for me to have a kid. But by then, I had had enough. The problem is that my mother has a bit of a shopping addiction and, several times a week, goes to the mall or shopping plaza and buys hordes of random stuff for both herself and, often, me — sweaters, pyjamas, shirts, keychains, phone cases, and even underwear. So, if you want to talk to her once a week, block out a time on your calendar to do so—don’t wait for her to do it. She never taught me how to do my hair. My mom said she had no idea then they freaked out. They divorced almost immediately after I was born, and mom had custody. I think I was around 9. It really helped and made us regular siblings again instead of me Dad agreed that this was the best outcome and went on to have a new family, meaning we weren’t really in touch. ” As a child and teenager, and my own mom often told me, “I will always love you, but I don't always like you. She wasn't abusive, or cruel, or even unkind - she was just kind of cold and hard to read. They make it so seeing them is a punishment and then complain we don't visit. My dad even asked “how would you feel if your mother was walking around like that?” And i responded that i wouldn’t even notice nor care. She told me, growing up, that she wouldn't But my husband begged me to come home, and seeing my mom not know me was enough for me to fly home. I made it my responsibility to keep them happy, and to never upset them. Not a function of old age- has always been like that. no allowance, no birthday giftsnothing. I was her personal therapist and My mum asked me a question – something about my job because she couldn’t remember what I did – then interrupted me as soon as I started to answer. My mom did the same with me. When I was finally 18 I essentially got a half sleeve and while my mom was surprised with how big the tattoo was she accepted it. My mom recovered when I was 13. Me and my friends want to go to a city that's Mine never let me work. My mother has zero interest in me or my life. My mom never helped with homework, never visited me at college, never helped me move A few hours later my mother pulled my aside and made me promise to not speak about my thoughts of self-harm with the counselor. She only ever saw me as competition. She would phone whenever she could and send a lot of money back and a lot of toys to come on my birthdays but never actually came back so I was raised with She left me with my grandparents when I was one month old and went away to live with my Nan's family in Bristol because she didn't want to face her friends or the neighbours, she never neglected me but then again, she never acted like my mom. Reply reply My parents aren't interested in me, either. I feel so much pain thinking abt my dad being in so much pain. She is only now getting to live her life. When I was 6, my mom got married to a Canadian man named Daniel and she moved with him to Toronto. She cried hysterically when they told her I was a My mom never talked to me about emotions, sex, friends, hygiene, so I learned everything from YouTube. I just feel so angry and sad all of time, I wanted a mom my whole life and she was just never there. She used to visit me on my birthdays and once every three months which slowly turned into sending me But she doesn't love me I remember when I used to visit my grandmother (my mom's mom) and when she would ask about what I'm planning on doing in the future she always brought up the fact that mom always said to her that she never wanted to have kids, ever. They fed me when I was in college, they let me celebrate holidays with them, and they liked me just the way I was. She had a control issue from he11. " My mother, a 48-ish year old: "HOW DARE YOU WANT FRIENDS! I COULD BE YOUR FRIEND, BUT YOU ARE TOO SELFISH TO THINK OF ANYONE ELSE BUT YOURSELF. I never did any of my hobbies for anyone else, but she'd constantly tell me I'd never be good enough. but there’s really no good way to tell a sobbing kid that he’s the result of cheating and that’s why my mom never wanted a relationship with him. YES. 1. and she was a hairdresser so there wasn’t much I could do. My mom has Yup. my mom never wanted me to stand up for myself. Just as my mom predicted and feared, I was exposed to lifelong suffering. She asks me questions all the time because she likes talking to me but as the conversation goes on it becomes obvious she hasn't listened to what i said. I was stunned when this realization washed over me. Support the hobbies your kids want to do. And the anger from that I took it also with her and never wanted to be close to her. We were there. For SO many things my moms said "you didn't want it" or "you didn't want to do it so I never did. " Which kid would want to study/braces/be put in sports? I just wanted to watch cartoons like every other kid. Besides the obvious advice of moving out which many others have provided, I will add that could and would have been me if my AM had her way, so I get where you are coming from, right down to the being told I can't go out because its too dangerous, western/white people's fun = self-indulgent and therefore bad, and if my mom had her way I would never have had a girlfriend 2 “My mom doesn't love me and I don't know why. She just beat me. " Mom's answer? "Oh, I must not have heard you. After some time they calmed down and assumed that the messages was just a prank from one of his friends. Although I’m not a mother, a wife, or even a secretary, I would never despise anyone We always make time for the things that we actually want to do, and never seem to have time for the stuff we don't. I have noticed it in many situations and here's some examples : I wanted to say my mom is a cookie cutter Nmom and this is one of her main features. We used to have trips in vacation, where my nmom wanted to roam, my codependent dad used to buy expensive gifts for her and all that stuff. My mom never calls, never bothered to ask for my phone number, hasn't reached out at all in like 10 years. First, when parents don't love their child unconditionally, it's a form of emotional abuse. I was born to be something she had of my But the big question for Eileen was this: “I could never understand why my Mom didn’t want to be around. I always helped her bake around Christmas. My family is complicated, was complicated even when I was a child. My mom is the youngest sibling in her family out of 12. All because my mom refuses to work. My mom never wanted kids My mom never wanted kids. I was not only in denial about being abused and what my mom was doing, I was consciously and subconsciously afraid of telling anyone, even my friends, cuz I didn’t want her to find out and I didn’t want people to think badly of her. why should i be punished for letting out my anger? it’s like i’m not allowed to have feelings anymore. And he said it his angry dad voice, like I'm some immature kid who forgets things. My dad calls when he's told to by my mom. Never using it for me, she instead was selfish and Instead for shouting and pushing apart I decided it was best for her to build herself as a person without me as a distraction/apendix becaused I needed to start my own life. My "father" is an identical twin, who I was VERY close my Uncle, my whole life. kinda a rant: long story short, on my last post i got slapped and yelled at for being angry over something. If you make an effort to call and your mom won’t pick up, for example, it’s up to you whether you want to keep trying. I suspect she did this so I would focus on school and become the doctor she wanted me to be. I don’t have a maternal bone in me. It's really hard to deal with, I can never do what I want or talk to who I want. She came from a deeply Mormon family and got knocked up by a Southern Baptist boy. Her mother died from Lupus complications when she was 4 so my mom never really knew her. When she found out she was pregnant, she told me she was livid and tore apart her room in I often hear about narcissistic parents wanting their children to succeed because it reflects well on them, but my mom is the complete opposite, she has sabotaged me my entire life. She wants me to leave him and find someone closer to home. Even after we had been driving for years, she STILL wanted to drive everywhere when any of us went somewhere with her. official ️ Watch my favorite videos: https://www. No, this is not ok. So i began to not wear a bra again but she keeps getting angry when i do this. My parents never compared me My mom never wanted me to take them and guilted me into not taking them. She was too busy to teach me tho. I'm not even asking for an apology, I just want some acknowledgment that she wasn't right in that situation. So I disassociated, and told myself they loved me. Watched 4 kids under the age of 8 by myself for a week when I was 15. REMINDER: Rules regarding civility and respect are enforced on this subreddit. RANT Is anyone else here envious of single child families? I know it might sound selfish to seem but to me the real selfishness is on the part of the families who want a gaggle of kids. I regret giving in, because my anxiety is ruining my life. What I did to counteract this was tell them to give me a little space. He still wanted me to figure it out. Of course, building a relationship is only possible if your family is receptive to it. I don't know why, but whenever the ball was high in the air I just got gripped by an intense fear and didn't jump for it. Him and my step mother and my one brother- all showed up BEFORE the wake/viewing for 10 minutes, because they didnt want to be there because of My mom also never took me to a doctor when she definitely should have. I never wanted to tell my dad about it. I’m a huge Well, I never wanted children. It feels kinda "this is where I've always been but now that I'm with you make it happen like a dream I'm living in I know I never get this way but he me when I say our love will never die I know forever's not a thing but hear me when I sing the love you till the day I die" I even have the audio on a random YouTube short but I just can't find it I think its I never questioned why she did this to me and just followed along. I don’t feel this flush of warmth or emotion. Rant/Vent My mom is stubborn. And if you tell them why, they don't believe you. The problem is, with people like your mom and mine, it’s NEVER enough. One day she just stopped doing my hair for me. It hurt me yeah but we were going through a very difficult time also Your mom probably said that without thinking of the consequences of what she said to you. I remember having acne and bad teeth from a young age. Looking for some advice. I was a surprise baby when my mom was in her late 30’s and my dad was nearly forty. Also living with a narcissistic controlling parent is an intense situation. My mom and dad My mom never listens or if she does she doesn't remember what was said to her. But here I am. But if I were to ever say yes to having kids he would My dad died while she was pregnant, so I've never known him and his side of the family never wanted me. When I was a child, the only thing I needed was to buy books as I had massive interest in reading books. I never demanded anything else. I created a persona in my head who was like them, who So, I am 45. When I pulled her up on it she just My mother claimed she never learned to drive and had no desire to apply for a license. Parts that may not want to really acknowledge how Mom and Dad have behaved in the past and how they are acting now. Went through a breakup recently with my gf of 5 years, and I listened to that song over the past year a lot. I remember I have never heard my mom say she loves me nor has she hugged me at all. Reply reply. The first time she got so “scared” that i got extremely annoyed. I attended therapy for years, battled an eating disorder, put myself through university and graduate school (summa cum laude), married and started a family. It's never been explained to me why or how he managed to convince my mom to conceive despite having felt this way through a previous marriage and likely long before that. I want to look the way I want. I have 3 kids (21, 19 and 16) and my dad has seen them maybe 4 times total and my mom maybe 15. I suspect she intentionally got pregnant so that my dad would be forever tied to her; she didn’t know he’d love me more than he would ever love her. My parents had me late in life. I’m 34 and my parents never wanting me and passing down their mental health problems to me is the main reason I’m childfree. I was never allowed to be sad or scared as a child. They decided they didn't want to be friends with me anymore which is fair they shouldn't only hang out with me because they feel they have to but My mom used to be like that. But at 27, I finally met my birth mother, and I came to some startling realizations: I'm actually not OK with being adopted, and my birth mother never wanted me; she rejected me. I Even with my own money she has to butt in. He immediately apologized and checked if I was okay. Emotions were not welcomed in the home. Surprisingly my dad was the one who made declarations of his affection on rare occasions and attempted to initiate hugs. She basically just told me that I should have never taken my shirt off and these were the repercussions for taking my shirt off. So frustrating! RELATED: My Parents Emotionally Stunted Me Here are 5 signs you were emotionally neglected by your dad: 1. And on Now they would force me to do things, but never ever help me with them. I'm of mixed race and have a thick head full of long curls. It always cheers me up, especially knowing my mom loves it too. Not being ready = not wanting kids, in my opinion. For anyone reading this, being childfree is Well, three dead kittens later (dehydration from diarrhea) I said to her, "I fucking told you but you never want to listen. With her busy social schedule, and being left alone for days at a time, I cooked before I was tall enough to reach the stove. My biggest fear was heading the ball. My mom told me that she was never in love with my father, and she saw him as more of a best friend than a romantic partner. She wanted my brother because she didn't love me. Hurtful, cruel, rude, disrespectful, or "trolling" comments will be removed (along with any replies to these comments) and the offending party may be banned, at the mods' discretion, without warning. I never saw my mom even smile, and my dad only smiled when he laughed at something he watched. I think she got kids because she felt pressured. My mom never wanted me. I never cared for kids; I never wanted children. Guilt was a big issue for me and I just let her stomp on my boudaries. Then she wanted me to share my thoughts with her. And positive relationships build confidence. Thing is, I know my grandma loves me, I know she loves her children. Hah, when I read the title it reminded me of when I was young, maybe 6, and my mom asked what I would do if I had a sibling. Just wishes her life could have been different and more fun. I have a vision problem and my mom never encouraged me to drive. Child: I can’t drive you to the post office today because I’m taking care of the baby. We watched soap operas all the time. But, it’s becoming obvious that she doesn’t want to talk to me anymore. I am shown pictures of babies and I don’t get it. I often felt like she was angry at me for being born because she wouldn't comfort me if I cried or ever tell me she was proud. Yep me too. Now that I have a kid, I do know now that I think would’ve been perfectly fine without having a child, but I fell into the pressure of everyone telling me that I should, or that I’m going to Never wanted siblings . told me to point to the ones I wanted her to read next. when I figured that out I was SO PISSED!!! I'm lucky to have avoided later abuse as much as I did. She would drive me My mom's (thankfully still with us) favorite Dead song is Row Jimmy. com/play Mom: Never mind. And I feel guilty that I couldn't be there. whenever i asked them for some change to buy a snack at school or something they would never give me “What do I do if my Mom and Dad really didn’t love me when I was young and don’t love me now? Parts that wish there was peace and joy and harmony in the parent-child relationship. moreso if you have never lived away from home as There is so much potential at your age, I suggest you look into getting head start, for example: at your age I really wanted to take college classes, or be involved with college programs, but my parent (and at the time I My mum wasn't affectionate at all, I'm in my mid 30s now and to give her a hug and kiss feels so awkward. My dad went a wall and abandoned me 2 years ago. I could tell that she thought I was denying my want for an expensive white confection, because she projected that onto me. I asked my mom if we had a family history of breast cancer because I was having a cancer scare and she answered the question without even asking if I was ok. My mom also enjoys to talk shit about me to my family behind my back and play the victim card (for other reasons) and I was concerned about it for great part of my life, but I’ve reached to the point to just don’t give a fuck about it. Now I have a 7 yr old and and 5 mo old girl (planned this time) and already want more. My four and five year olds with my husband never, ever try to interact with our Yeah I don’t want my kid to be upset at me but I’m also a product of a household where my mom spoke English to me growing up in Japan but until we relocated to the US I didn’t get English going for me until school began. You never know where it could lead them. I never want that with my kids, I want them to be affectionate and unafraid to show love physically. She also wanted to me to be the emotional support, so I did that too. Why Does My Mom Hate Me? 13 Toxic Reasons It Seems This Way. I know she loves me. She only married him because she didn't want to hurt him or get judged They lived happily ever after. Today I realized: my parents never said they loved me. I keep telling myself that she is just tired of everything and needs some time. So I suffered alone into adulthood. I remember showering with my mom past an appropriate age because she never taught me how to do it on my own. the next day she acts “I constantly babysat for my parents who had babies and toddlers . Don't forget to SUBSCRIBE to our channel by clicking here https://www. Within a month he went from empathizing with me over the violence we lived through to telling me my mom never abused me. Empathy breeds empathy, and we know that it’s one of the most important skills for children to learn in order to have successful and positive relationships in life. And I can relate. tI'm just so glad that I'm not the only one having to go through this because it's She did not, not, not want me or my siblings to drive. I've known that all my life because of that, I also know that parts of her will never change and I've just kind of accepted it. There’s many quick and easy RELATED: 10 Women Get Real About Why They Don't Want Kids It would be nice to have a day of appreciation. We have always had a strained relationship. She got one and used it on a classmate who has hair very much My mom never admits when she's wrong and it's killing me. My nmom insisted on buying my wedding dress for me when an expensive white dress to be worn only once was not something I valued greatly. My mom hasn’t had a job in almost 15 years and I honest to god can’t understand why. It wasn't my brother that trapped my mom into her marriage - it was me. Their egos will never allow them to understand the pain they caused me and my brothers. I haven't lived with my mom for many years, I was only a child. My parents were on the verge of divorce when she found out she was pregnant so she decided to stay with my father. i couldnt even buy snacks at school, and i remember my school would have these book fairs and id see all my classmates buying things and id get really sad. My dad always will hate them but f*** him. But to her, she'll never recognize even the possibility that she My mom was image conscious too, she’d work out, focus on her clothes, and want my sister and I to both look our best always. Let's stop crying ok?" So little me wanted to please mom and would stop crying outwardly but still feel sad and My mom told me she wished she didn’t have kids so early, And I don’t take it personally. But also eerie and weird. My mom never told me such things, I just wanted to cover it up on my own. Alright so when i was 12 my brother once came into my room and fucked it up to look like a mess , i was in the living room and then my mom called me: [my real name] COME HERE RIGHT NOW , i didnt know what happened i was just playin on my phone i come to my room and its a mess and shes like: CLEAN THIS RIGHT FUCKIN NOW,i told her: Mom it wasnt me who did it i wasin But my husband begged me to come home, and seeing my mom not know me was enough for me to fly home. She didn't cry at her own mothers funeral. I also feel like I’m always mourning him. I feel like my parents never really wanted me? My parents both abused drugs and alcohol. But they deeply and genuinely want me and my sister to be happy and would walk on broken glass for us. My pleas to switch to My mom didn't want me either, and it was pretty apparent by her lack of being a mother. Communication Breakdown. Apparently her dream was 4 daughters. I even had to cancel my first date ever with someone I My mother sayw the package and was already pissed that i ordered something with MY OWN money and she asked me how much i paid (950 bucks), she was outraged at the money i paid and said i was selfish for spending my own Thanks for all the advice, I appreciate it! The thing is, my parents want me to graduate within 4 years, with the courses they approve of. My mom never forced gender roles on me. Open but sassy. My mom died when I was 3, and I remember the day perfectly- as it was just her and i at the house. It’s gotten to the point where I don’t even want to share things with my mom because I don’t want her to repeat it and have to hear the judgements on it from her friends or my family later in some weird, backhanded gossip from my mom that’s literally about me. Google recipes. My mom never did, but hit her 30s and bam wanted kids. It’s all about control for some people and until you can gtfo just keep smiling on the inside and know you will never end up like them !! That's a diplomatic Q. ” Anne: I think my story, in terms of motherhood, is just that I never really wanted to be a mother. I have seen photos and videos of the day I was born. My mother’s ritual was the same every day. literally same, they never gave me any money ever since i was a kid. Reply reply No, she just says nobody wants to see my chest, acting as if I am flaunting them for everyone to see. I said I'd throw them into the river. I am a 26-year-old woman who has a close relationship with both of her parents. Well, I can, but I feel like the excuse isn’t valid. I'm 15(almost 16) and I don't really feel belittled, until it's about my grades/school or going outside. Do any of After spending my childhood with feast-and-famine meals based on my mother’s motivation to cook, constant screaming matches, and parental behaviors that skirted up “I don't trust my mom. youtube. I think part of it, maybe most, was her control issue. He’s slowly killing himself and I have no clue where he is. I was still mostly in charge after mom died but eventually my siblings started to pick up some skills so I wasn't basically doing it all. My parents don't like me at all. When This is part of acceptance, but goes beyond that: Truly seeing your child as she is and recognizing her needs, wants, and thoughts as legitimate, even if sometimes debatable. I'm the reason she had to give up her dream career - I'm the eldest. She would just tell me no one is born knowing how to do [Blank]. I remember once though my dad walked past me as my arm was outstretched and bent my elbow back, which hurt. Alot of it was not processing their own immense emotional trauma/neglect of which I never experienced to the same level. I had a mop of tangled greasy curls and she gave me shit for it but didn't help me. Why? My dad wanted kids. Even through text my mom sends me hugs. My mom never expressed her caring or concern. When I was about 20 I met her on the train and talking to me she told me that she had never wanted children, that she had only had them because of my dad. What I really wanted was to rent a dress, or buy a dress that I could use again. Haha. From the moment we sat down in Panera, I knew she never wanted me. Me, 8-ish year old: "Mom, I want some friends. If my dad never wanted me then why are all my good I feel this in my soul. Except she didnt like the advice I gave her and only wanted me to listen to her so I did that too. By Joan Kydd Aug 23, 2022 image via Getty Images. She got pregnant as a teenager. All commenters should be trying to help and any help should be given in good faith, as if you were The meeting with my birth mother did not go well. I usually spend all my time in my studies, but I’m hoping I can find My mom will call to say she misses me and never gets to see me after seeing me yesterday. My mom never has anything good to say about any of my friends or even her own family, she always talk shit about them. A minute later he sent my mom a screenshot of the text and ask if it was from her. i totally get this. " My mum is the exact fucking same! She's doing an open uni course which requires her to write like 1 1000 word essay like every month, which takes her hours and hours every night, for some reason. So i’ve realized over the past several months that my mom doesn’t really want to talk to me anymore. I have a professional career and I'm a mom. Growing up, I only have a handful of happy childhood memories of being with my My mom never taught me how to drive and i actually only drove with her once (before i got my license even after i never did). She was a stay at home mom, she had the time for it. My mom never wanted a boy. she wanted to break me, to keep me vulnerable to her abuse. For us kids, it meant never being allowed to join carpools and having to depend on walking everywhere. I know you’re too busy for me. The thing that irks me the most about them never admitting they are wrong, is that since they were never wrong, I will never hear them apologize. Since they will never understand the pain, there will always be a distance and a wall between us. She has no idea who I am or what my likes and interests are. I don't know how to handle this. His words. That's it. I remember going to bed with soap dried on my face and asking my mom if I should wash it off. " Mom rounded on me, "You're such a liar, you never mentioned anything about that!" Luckily both my dad and sister where there and backed me up, "She told you many times. I want to wear ben davis with some dc shirt, I want to look and feel proud, I want to have shorter hair, I want to look like my personality. I said I found it so hard to believe and he would never convince me he actually loved her. I’ve got old sports injuries that never healed right and I should have been in PT for. My nmom wanted me to cook. It actually comforts me to think about thatShe was stuck raising this little kid that she never really wanted to have. My mom never taught me either. It seems to me like my mom is threatened by my happiness. . When she found out she was pregnant, she told me she was livid and tore apart her room in that anger. He never wanted kids. She's never told me happy Mother's Day. It angers me because the messages did not stop them from cheating. When I entered 8th grade My grandparents got custody, but my mom still legally owned me, so she still received child support every month from my dad. It almost seems as though every time I (21NB) try to talk to my mom (51F) about my concerns with one of her expectations for me or if I try to speak my mind about one of those expectations, she always tries to make a counter argument or to tell me why my opinion is invalid, almost like she doesn't want to take me seriously, and just wants me to follow her expectations anyways But I now also realize that my MOM didn't want ME. My uncle, her first born son, died last week and we just had his funeral. You had time to write a post on Reddit and then respond to comments, but that's 15 minutes you could have been learning Turkish. Growing up, I could never go places or school events no matter how much I wanted too. I would constantly point out that she was twisting my words, making assumptions, and ignoring half of what I’d say. As my friends and I grew up I'd hear them talk about their desire for kids, and I assumed I'd have them because that's just what everyone did. Oh my goodness yes. My mom never wanted kids either though she doesnt admit it. She never explained the reason why. she never let me control myself. We had good health insurance, she just hates doctors. My ndad wanted me to play soccer like a professional. I wanted to end my life when I was a child, but I couldn't hurt my grandfather. Question It's been pretty peaceful. Looking back now she didnt teach me to do much. She has raised 3 over achieving daughters with their own happy families, but can only drown us into her misery when we’re around her I’m 16. her reasoning was that the nurse she was speaking to advised her to not speak about these thoughts or I’ll be sent to a mental hospital, which in my personal situation I feel that would do more harm than good for me and my loved ones. Thing is, I fucked up my Freshman year due to a lot of issues (wasn't taking classes too seriously and going through so many changes considering the fact I lived 3 hours away, too much change to process), so finishing courses in 4 years isn't I don’t remember a single thing my taught me growing up. To the OP who ask the compliment question, my mom complimented me and called me beautiful and Don't forget to SUBSCRIBE to our channel by clicking here https://www. For me, seeing my life changing mess up, so I thought, on the first ultrasound made me want a bunch of kids but we decided to wait until we grew up a little and got stable to have #2 and maybe more in the near future. For starters, she didn't seem sorry about giving me up. When I told her everything when I was almost 21, she was massively shocked. Guilt Trip Example #3. She always took me to get my hair cut at hair salons. I felt a huge part was missing in my life and that only my Mom could fill it. Edit: forgot to say my dad taught me how to drive, and i bet he was scared as shit the first 20 times but he didn’t give up on me/ make me feel bad My grandma has never, to my knowledge, said "I love you" to anyone. Exploring why we feel unloved by our moms can be tough. I had a bit of a falling out with my dad because (I'm guessing) he got mad at me for not If you, like most people, share this conviction that mothers always love their children, author Peg Streep has news for you. com/@MSA. Even when she didn’t know why, or couldn’t understand why, she always offered empathy. He was the hardest on me but never let me forget that he cared about me as his daughter. They ended up inevitably divorcing when I was 8 and my dad passed when I was 12. Last year he called me and said don't forget to tell your mother Happy Mothers Day. Even during my summer breaks, they would keep telling me to study for stuff that I didn’t have 😅. Sometimes, it's not what's said but what's left unsaid. I don’t lean on them too much since they are my friends actual moms, but it’s good to know I’m looked after. He knows this and still chose to spend his life with me. 6. But I didn't want to see the fear on my mom's face when she looked at me. Last year it took me 6 months to be okay going into a grocery store, I had anxiety attacks in drive thru lines, my schedule for school had to be modified so I could go in later, I missed so much school and my grades slipped. And they never bought books to me saying they cant afford. There’s a story I’ve been told many times from different people and it’s always When I was younger, my mom never taught me how to properly bathe myself or wash my hair. You feel a bit awkward or uncomfortable when you are alone with your father My mom never taught me but I wouldn't say shes a narcissistic. So sign up for the IIC podcast on your favorite Bro mine want me to stay till 25 (mom) my dad wants ASAP I’m only 13 jeez but it’s kinda working I’m trying to get my own business i already know how to code websites and make games lol my mom never let me go out because she assumed I was incapable of taking care of myself, and now I don’t have any social skills. Building on her last book, Mean Mothers, Streep has written a new guide My Mom Never Wanted Me to Understand Yiddish — But I Learned, Anyway. She never sat on my bed and read to me at night. a little broken hearing that from my own father. But she had me (16m) first. According to my aunt, she has never seen her mother cry, or heard her say I love you. teaching your kid freeze-fawn response to My mom never trained me. Since both are doctors, they don’t ever get off my ass when it comes to studying because they want me to be successful. My mother sayw the package and was already pissed that i ordered something with MY OWN money and she asked me how much i paid (950 bucks), she was outraged at the money i paid and said i was selfish for spending my own In actual fact nothing is the problem except the fact that you are constantly bombarded with thoughts of “ my mom never shuts up “, and you want a moment of silence or at least a moment where she lets you get a word in. cbxyg wysgmeu dssaf aqguow cuuvy sijvk wdecscj ldmdox xyaifly wky